If Disney Could Fail Like He Did and It Brought Him to His Greatest Success...The Rest of Us Should Always Value the Lessons Of Failure and Never Let It Be an End Point! We have all heard, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again." What happens when you don't succeed, though? Do you really try again? Or do you give up? A new study by French researchers found that children who were told learning can be difficult, and that failing is a natural part of the learning process, actually performed better on tests than kids not given such reassurances. As a Psychologist who works with success and the benefits of failure every day, I believe there is no better way to take the punch out of failure and keep a kid going on work than to train them to fail with grace. In the study, they focused on a widespread cultural belief that equates academic success with a high level of competence and failure with intellectual inferiority. We place so much emphasis on being first or being the best and the fastest. The truth is that most of the kids I have met throughout the years didn't have academic problems and didn't have intelligence problems, although they presented as though they did, and their school reports said as much. Their main problem was that they did not know how to keep going once they did something wrong, so they would give it up, become frustrated and then try to do anything and everything else but the work. At the end of the day, they would miss out on material because of that avoidance. Work avoidance, lost homework, hidden homework. All of these are common problems, but the underlying issue is not always about academics. Most parents bring their kids in for help because they either refuse to work or seem to have a learning problem. After years of watching what fear of failure does to kids, I believe that practicing the process of how to fail with grace, taking the emotion out of it and getting right back to the work is the key to doing well. If frustration has the ability to take a child away from work and make him never want to go back, then it is my job to help him learn how to tolerate the frustration and move on. Teaching them to get back in the "game" after failing or making a mistake is an important psychological part of helping them succeed. Over time, doing that takes the emotional punch out of failing and helps kids learn that it is a natural part of learning. Without it, they don't stay with the process of learning. It's not something to run away from but something to be embraced and taken on. Once they learn how to just go back and try again automatically, they can begin to do that on everything they take on because it can become habit. While working with the academics, one must also make sure to pay attention to the psychological patterns and expectations or you could see no movement at all. "By being obsessed with success, students are afraid to fail, so they are reluctant to take difficult steps to master new material" says Frederique Autin, a postdoctoral researcher at the University of Poitiers and the author of the study published in the American Psychological Association. "Instead, acknowledging that difficulty is an important part of growing intellectually and mastering new skills, could stop a vicious circle in which difficulty creates feelings of incompetence that in turn disrupts learning," Autin added. An understanding that all things will not be an immediate success and that learning will take time and involve some mistakes, can help to keep a child's expectations at a realistic place and keep them working after setbacks. Failure can be motivating. Keep in mind that some of the most famous, wealthy, successful people we have known have all failed at one time in their lives, including: Henry Ford, R.H. Macy, F.W. Woolworth, Bill Gates, Walt Disney, Harrison Ford, Jerry Seinfeld and Albert Einstein. Walt Disney was actually told that "he lacked imagination and had no good ideas" by a newspaper editor. How's that for a perspective changer? Just imagine if these people had stopped trying! The failure was a gift -- shaping them into what they were really supposed to be doing.   
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Disney's "One Man's Dream" Takes Our Breath Away With Inspiration. Lessons for Everyone. We were awe inspired by The Hollywood Studios "One Man's Dream" This is the story of Walt Disney as told by a museum timeline complete with the facts and items he used to make the magic happen. It is followed by a 15 minute movie using mostly his voice to tell his story. It brought me to tears in parts and gave me good chills in other parts. All of it inspired me. Being trained as a Child and Family Psychologist, I can't help but seeing these things and trying to help others see it as well, because it can help everyone. What did I learn? Amazing things that everyone should hear and read... *When you see that even Disney is human enough to fail over and over again and then inspiration comes on a train in one moment and one thought and one drawing, you know that anyone can do well if they don't give up! *When you let your mind be peaceful, creativity comes to you and so do the answers you need. Also, just because someone took something from you. does not mean that something better isn't coming around the corner. Sometimes what we are not supposed to be doing needs to be cleared before the thing we are supposed to be doing can happen. Walt was on a train from New York to California after having what he considered one of his biggest failures and having someone steal his first animation project. As he was sitting on the train, a mouse popped into his head and he sketched it and the rest is history. *Sometimes the most inspired ideas come out of the smallest start. *Nothing is insignificant when it comes to creativity. *Running out of money as Walt did several times, does not equal running out of creativity. *Starting poor and without anything, does not equate with where you will end up or how much you will have. Walt shared the story of his brother Roy and how, even though the family had nothing, and Walt had to work at 9 years old on a paper route, Roy would be the one to make sure that Walt and his sister Ruth had a toy for Christmas. Walt came from nothing monetarily and he built something that has touch millions of people. He may have gotten "rich" from his ideas, but I think the richness was in his soul and his desire to share with others. *Focusing on your failures and working there is the exact wrong way to do things. Letting your mind open up and be creative after the failure is where the inspiration lives! *Wanting to do for others is the true root of all inspiration. Walt's main motivation in Disney was not profit and mountains of money. His inspiration came when he took his 2 beloved daughters out to go ride the merry go rounds at the carnivals nearby. While he sat there watching his kids ride, he felt that there should be a place where the parents could ride with their kids and then put his whole soul into that. It was for his kids. My Dad used to tell me that if you love what you do and you want to do it for others, the money will come, but if you do things for just the money, you will hate what you do and never be successful. I have always lived my life by this philosophy and I believe that Walt Disney also did and it looks like my Dad's advice to me, worked for him as well. *Family first. Walt's whole inspiration was for his daughters and for families to be together. I can't speak for all families, but I know that we get our strength and inspiration from each other and I like to help teach people how to get there too. There is so much other noise around all of us that can get in the way and distract us from what is really important. Blocking the noise and making sure you keep your family connected is where magic comes from. *Do you know that the first time Walt tried to submit his ideas to a newspaper, he got rejected. the reason the editor gave him was that his ideas were not creative enough! Never stop dreaming and never let anyone tell you that your dreams can't happen. We did not get to spend enough time there as we were trying to get to the Jack Sparrow attraction and we were the last showing of that for the night. I can promise that we will be going back to see One Man's Dream again and take our time to go through slowly and absorb the brilliance and inspiration and magic that came from one man who wanted to be able to ride with his daughters.    |
Dr. Sherri's 2 centsThis blog will be for my writings and inspiration as a homeschool mom. Disney and other Central Fla attractions are our gym and physical ed/exercise, an educational world and a place to be inspired and together. We feel blessed to have that. Also being a trainer and teacher of natural solutions to attention, behavior and learning problems, and being around these places all the time with families with kids, I find there is a lot to say, a lot to share and a lot to teach and network about. This blog is where I will do that. Please be patient as it will take some time to get this set up and moving on a regular basis. Archives
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Who doesn't love pics of Disney, other Fla parks and Central Florida especially when they have cool effects?! If you love special effects, you will love my site! My Disney, Universal, Seaworld and Central Florida photography/art is an obsession for me, but there has been little time to follow up on sharing it all. Not complaining! I am excited to share with you some amazing effects pics, videos, GIF animations, panoramas and collages . You'll also find my most beautiful pics/videos as I come across them. I am just getting started but I have a ton to share. Something new as often as I can post it. Your favorite memories as well as mine of being in the happiest place on earth (which for us is Florida parks, Florida nature as well as Disney) . Whether you loved your Florida/Disney vaca or just need to see some moving pix and pix that move you of Florida sunshine to brighten your mood, it will all be here. All will be free to see on my site anytime but I am also going to make some of my artwork available for sale for people to be able to have for their own collections or to print fx pix and panoramics for their walls or screens. My logo does meed to stay on the bottom of each GIF/effects pic/movie when sold and creative credit is still mine but I am thrilled to share with you and have you share with others.
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